Anatomy Before Anal Play

Anatomy Before Anal Play

While our anuses are accustomed to stretching and having things travel through them, things get a little more complicated when your sexual acts result in putting stuff up your butt instead of pushing things out. 

Many of us don't know a thing about what is happening back there. For instance, did you know that all of us have two anal sphincter muscles? The outer sphincter muscle is the one we are better acquainted with. This sphincter is voluntary. 

The second inner sphincter muscle is an inch or two inside of the anus and is involuntary. Beyond that is the rectum, which is about 6-8 inches long. This leads to our colon, where fecal matter is stored until it’s ready to be expelled.

The Prostate and the Anus

If you have a prostate gland, it will be pretty much in the same area as the G-spot (sometimes stimulated during vaginal sex). The prostate is an organ that creates seminal fluid and is a firm mass about the size of a walnut. You can find it by entering your finger about two or three inches into the anus with your palm faced upwards.

Then, angle it towards the front of the body and feel around. The prostate responds well to the same kinds of stimulation as the G-spot (we are more alike than we are different). When you locate it, try doing some come hither motions, tapping, and simply applying pressure to it.

Where is the G Spot?

For those who do not have a prostate, the sexual act of anal can still be super fun! The anus is rich in nerve endings and, since the wall in between the vaginal canal and the anal canal is so thin, it is possible to hit the G-spot with anal penetration. For a real treat, try playing with your ass and your external anatomy at the same time. You’re one step closer to an anal orgasm!

Getting Started with Butt Play

Okay, so now you have a basic understanding of your anatomy and are ready for some anal sex - and if you don’t have a male friend around, try using anal beads, an anal dildo and other fun anal toys. But since you’re just getting started with butt play, let’s begin with some anal training (and a sh!t ton of anal lube).

We suggest starting with anal fingering. You probably won’t run into any poop unless you have to go right now. Remember, the colon is where poop is stored and it's released during a bowel movement. One would have to have fingers that extend up to 8 inches long to get to any backed-up feces. If you are still feeling nervous about potentially touching poop, throw on some latex gloves.

Now that you are ready to start, I want you to go slower than slow. I would start with a familiar pleasure to kick start the arousal process. Arousal makes penetration easier and more pleasurable if that's your goal. There is no rush for that, though. Take your time here. No two anuses are exactly alike. Get to know yours with some external anal massage.

Start on the outer part with lots of lube (some of the best anal lube to try is our PePee Backdoor Anal Lube and Pjur Backdoor Comfort Anal Glide). Pay attention to your body and how it reacts to different types of touch. Try gently circling your butthole or doing light stroking motions.  Breathe.

A good trick to remember is to exhale for longer than you inhale. With deep breaths, try bearing down with your pelvic floor muscles. This can help you inch a little deeper into your anal region. When you get further inside, stay there for a while and explore.

When you’re about two knuckles deep, see if you can feel your two sphincters contracting. This is totally normal. Remember to maintain a relaxed pace, keep deep breathing, and focus on what feels good. Experimenting with anal pleasure is fun to do alone, but also great to do with a partner! Don't be afraid to ask for a hand.

When you’ve gotten used to one finger, experiment with light in and out thrusting at your own pace. Try moving your finger in a circular motion. You can go on for as long as you want. You don’t even have to penetrate the anus! You can gently massage for more pleasure. Pleasure is the goal here. So, again, stick with what feels good.

Pain is a sign to pause and either slow down or take a step back. Don't expect anal orgasms on your first try.